I’ve been a member of many local writers groups–some for years and years. But lately, due to writing friends moving, giving up writing, or in the case of a couple of dear, dear friends, dying, I’ve been feeling more and more alone. The net result has been that I’m not attending critique, since it is too much effort right now to find a new group. And since I’m not attending critique, I don’t put as much of a premium on writing as I should. I still get the promo done, still try to sell the next book and still plan to write but more often than not, it never goes farther than just planning.
I groused about this in an email with one of my now distant writer friends (What is it with the East coast anyway? Why do you all move to the East coast? Is there some writing attraction there I don’t know about?) and she said she was having the same problem. She’d joined groups as soon as she moved there, but those groups were not close and she tended not to get there. Consequently, her work in progress was not getting done either.
We theorized about it for a bit. Her theory is that women are social, and that we need that group dynamic to keep going. My personal theory is that I am a lazy slug who does better when I have someone to nag me. For the record, I’ve tried doing critiques on-line, but the nagging appears to have to be in my face. Emails are just not all that effective on me.
What helps you write? Do you agree with the social animal idea? Or do you charge ahead when the writing is easy and maybe let it lag when the idea cools a bit? Tell us! Better yet, tell us what your solution is to get going again. I could use the help.